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Observing without Judgment

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Today, identify the facts, without adding your ideas about why people behave in certain ways. Then consider connecting with the person about what was going on with them. You will find that the more you observe life without judgment and evaluation, the more open you will be to hearing and connecting with other people.


Cause of Feelings

Audio • 13 minutes • 05/2007
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
13 minutes
05/2007

Many of us blame other people for our feelings but our own state of needs is the true cause. In this powerful audio, Sylvia teaches you how to manage your emotions in challenging situations and demonstrates the process of Screaming in Giraffe.


Abusive Relationships and Nonviolence

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 03/2012
Intermediate Skill Levels
Article
8 - 12 minutes
03/2012

In order to bring in more nonviolence into the world, we need to take our own needs seriously and recognize that no amount of seeing someone’s innocence would mean putting up with more of their harmful behavior. We need to disentangle compassion towards another from the willingness to tolerate more harmful actions. At times this means finding enough self-love, support, or clarity, to take decisive action. Read on for more.


The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

Some things may seem to take longer at first, but end up making things easier and faster. Other things seem easier or faster in the short term, but end up taking more time in the long run. This applies to projects, group agreements about process, relationships, addressing conflicts, clearing up misunderstandings, damage control, etc. It can be faster to slow down, be more present, and take the time since we care about the outcome.


Communicating with Children

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: Empathy can offer profound learning opportunities to children, expand their feelings and needs vocabulary, and teach them the positive results of valuing everyone’s needs. Read on for a story that illustrates this.


Practice, Practice, Practice

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/28/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/28/2005

Trainer Tip: Practicing NVC in situations that are not emotionally charged can give you valuable practice to help you maintain a compassionate consciousness when circumstances are charged. It can help you stay in that consciousness for a longer period of time. You can also practice by naming the needs that you got met in the situations you enjoy.


Facilitation and Transparency

Video • 9 minutes • 05/21/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
9 minutes
05/21/2020

Transparency: when is it too much? Does it support connection, clarity and flow? Is being transparent supporting your needs, the group's needs, and the group's purpose for being together? Check out this thoughtful excerpt from Mary's 2020 course, Jump In Now. Good food for thought!


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 8. Practice Self-Empathy with Your Whole Body

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

In our fast-paced, busy lives it is tempting to practice NVC mostly with the left hemisphere of the brain, thinking through the steps quickly without slowing down to connect more deeply with feelings and needs.  Don't miss an opportunity to integrate the hemispheres of the brain and the valuable information from the neural networks in the heart and gut.


Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 9/24/2021
Advanced Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
9/24/2021

It may be challenging to hear or make requests when you feel shame regarding anyone's feelings and needs. Without support, shame could be debilitating, so you may feel resistant and become defensive, hear threat, or criticize others. Instead, be with people who allow space for vulnerability. Find ways to celebrate, negotiate, be mindful, accepting, and creative.


Connecting with Someone Who Has Cancer

Trainer Tip • 6 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
6 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: I feel overwhelmed thinking of writing to someone with cancer. What can I do?


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