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NVC Resources on Interdependence

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 13 - 19 minutes •

Article
13 - 19 minutes

The awareness and practice of interdependence is integral to holding an NVC consciousness. Practicing interdependence also means bringing in a quality of care in the moments we want to change agreements with others. This article talks about where our various choices, in regards to changing agreements, fits into different levels of engaging our interdependence.

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 2 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 2 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as explores interdependence, autonomy, valuing self and others, and power-sharing in your relationships. Free yourself to honor your longing for community, belonging, and love.

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on...

Life, Interdependence, and the Pursuit of Meeting Needs

Life, Interdependence, and the Pursuit of Meeting Needs

Life, Interdependence, and the Pursuit of Meeting Needs

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 9 - 13 minutes •

Article
9 - 13 minutes

The more we can support an interdependent flow of resources and energy in society and the economy, the greater we can increase both natural abundance and the chances of averting extinction. Accumulation is a strategy born of mistrust. It’s an attempt to control the flow of life to guarantee that we will have enough for the future. Accumulation and exchange has blocked this interdependent flow....

Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes

Trainer tip: NVC consciousness recognizes interdependence. In this process each person is autonomous; everyone's needs matter; people have choice and responsibility for their actions; there's abundance, and a valuing of coming together. The dependence / independence paradigm assumes we either need someone else to be whole -- or we don’t need others at all. Commit to living autonomously. Notice...

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

Empathy And Privilege In An Interdependent World

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 16 - 24 minutes •

Article
16 - 24 minutes

Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than...

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

Responding to the Call of Our Times - Mentoring, Teaching and Coaching with Miki Kashtan

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 11 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 11 minutes

Listen as Miki works with participants. Topics: how small requests serve interdependence; NVC process vs purpose; how to respond when empathy is used to create distance; coping with verbal aggression, and more!

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 16 - 24 minutes •

Article
16 - 24 minutes

We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for...

Understanding Selfishness, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Care

Understanding Selfishness, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Care

Understanding Selfishness, Self-Responsibility, and Self-Care

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

What we refer to as "selfishness" is action taken without concern for the impact or cost of that action. Self-responsibility, on the other hand, includes actively living from the truth of interdependence, care for your and others needs, thriving of all, and more. We can access clarity of self care when we have open flexibility, curiosity, and responsiveness. Read on for more on the indicators...

Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

with Bob Wentworth

Article • 11 - 26 minutes •

Article
11 - 26 minutes

In the "obnoxious stage" we care for our needs in a way that doesn't respect others' needs. In the "emotional liberation" stage we fully care for others' needs as much as our own—while being free of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Often NVC training teaches us how to achieve the latter stage without the former. For greater compassion we can be more rigorous in how we talk about...

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 11 - 16 minutes •

Article
11 - 16 minutes

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of...

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

The Shadow Side of Autonomy

with Rachelle Lamb

Article • 8 - 12 minutes •

Article
8 - 12 minutes

Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared...

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

Compassion: Mature, Astute & Courageous

with Rachelle Lamb

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing...

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 14 - 21 minutes •

Article
14 - 21 minutes

In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when people in different social locations have 1.)a different sense of what's considered "enough" 2.) different capacities to...

Finding Systemic Solutions to Systemic Problems

Finding Systemic Solutions to Systemic Problems

Finding Systemic Solutions to Systemic Problems

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 23 - 34 minutes •

Article
23 - 34 minutes

Society gives us short-sighted explanations about human nature, life and what’s (un)changeable. The coronavirus pandemic is disrupting that explanation. Our current social order upholds impoverishment, police brutality, and is leading us towards our extinction. Change begins with people mobilizing resources towards a vision that holds systemic care for all, plus engages shared risk and...

The Inside Job of Collaboration (4 Session Course)

The Inside Job of Collaboration (4 Session Course)

The Inside Job of Collaboration (4 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 5 - 7 hours •

Audio
5 - 7 hours

Although we are evolutionarily designed for collaborating with others when attending to our basic needs, the weight of the systems and cultural messages we have inherited interfere. Many of us are doubtful that collaboration is possible or effective, and most of us lack both the faith and the skills to live collaboratively, regardless of cultural imperatives. Miki helps us navigate this terrain.

Expanding The Circle Of Care

Expanding The Circle Of Care

Expanding The Circle Of Care

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 5 - 7 minutes •

Article
5 - 7 minutes

Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet.

NVC and Social Change

NVC and Social Change

NVC and Social Change

with Alan Rafael Seid

Audio • 1 hour, 24 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 24 minutes

Listen to this telecourse recording with CNVC Certified Trainer, Alan Seid, to explore what is meant by social change in the context of NVC, and learn how Nonviolent Communication can be a powerful ally for creating social change.

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

Facilitate Change: Using NVC to Create Social Change

with Dian Killian PhD and Martha Lasley

Audio • 51 minutes •

Audio
51 minutes

Listen to this newly remastered audio with seasoned Life Coach and CNVC Certified Trainers Martha Lasley and Dian Killian, to explore how you can "be the change" in your life, to live fully in integrity with your values in your work, community, faith and social action groups.

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

Taking on the World: How to Become a Change Agent (12 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 14 - 18 hours •

Audio
14 - 18 hours

Are you eager to translate your vision of a world where everyone’s needs matter into a tangible reality? Do you long to discover your unique role in responding to the challenges of our times? If, so join Miki for 12 sessions that will propel you on your way!

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