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NVC Resources on Healing


Healing Old Pain

Video • 41 minutes • 
Video
41 minutes
Watch this heartwarming video as Robert Gonzales works with a volunteer to heal old pain over a situation with her grandmother. By playing the grandmother role, and using three different role play scenarios, Robert guides the woman through three stages of healing.

Reconciliation & Healing of Interpersonal Pain: Working with Marshall Rosenberg’s Four Part Process

Audio • 2 hours, 5 minutes • 
Audio
2 hours, 5 minutes
Experience John Kinyon's application of NVC Founder Marshall Rosenberg's 4-part model of reconciliation and healing, a model he developed over the course of decades of work with people around the world who have experienced the deep pain of violence.

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Audio • 7 - 9 hours • 
Audio
7 - 9 hours
Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?

Healing From Betrayal

Article • 5- 8 minutes • 
Article
5- 8 minutes
Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self...

Healing Addiction With Unconscious Contract Work

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
An addiction to something (eg. opioids, fats, sugars, salts, cigarettes, coffee, alcohol, etc.) or a compulsion (eg. gambling, shopping, working, sex or love addictions) is often an unconscious attempt to soothe trauma - fear, loneliness and shame that's frozen in unconscious memory. The addiction or compulsion is a substitute for what we really need. It is an endless craving that's never...

Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 
Article
6 - 9 minutes
When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...

Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

Article • 3-5 minutes • 
Article
3-5 minutes
In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

Self-Empathy: Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

Audio • 5 - 7 hours • 
Audio
5 - 7 hours
Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and...

Healing Worthlessness and Finding Belonging

Article • 4- 6 minutes • 
Article
4- 6 minutes
With worthlessness comes the idea of not belonging or not being worthy of belonging. In this context, belonging is more than an identity with a particular group. It is the sort of belonging that enables you to get other fundamental needs met, including safety, support, nourishment, and love. Unconscious attempts win worthiness and belonging often effectively blocks the very thing its pursuing....

Healing Codependency

Article • 5 - 10 minutes • 
Article
5 - 10 minutes
We all fall into codependency sometimes — it’s in our wiring. And when we do, it’s a sign that we’re looking for security the only way we know how in that moment: by looking outside of ourselves. At its core, codependency is the act of leaving ourselves and looking outward to find our sense of self. So to heal codependent patterns we need focus on coming back to ourselves and engage in...

Healing the Blame that Binds

Article • 4 -6 minutes • 
Article
4 -6 minutes
Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions.

Self-Empathy: A Guided Tour and Experience (Parts 1-2)

with Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill
Audio • 19 minutes • 
Audio
19 minutes
Experience the remarkable healing power of self-empathy, guided by CNVC Certified Trainers, Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill. In this audio course, the trainers lead participants through a demonstration and then supplement the learning with discussion and answers to questions.

Grief and Mourning for the World

Article • 5-7 minutes • 
Article
5-7 minutes
As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give...

Simple Interventions for Chronic Reactivity

Article • 6-9 minutes • 
Article
6-9 minutes
For each reactive pattern there is a perceived threat to a tender need. Knowing these tender needs helps us figure out how to interrupt these patterns and creating new ways of perceiving and relating to life. In addition to knowing the need, knowing the healing response and the primary reactive behavior helps with transformation.

Trauma and Sanctuary

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 
Article
3 - 5 minutes
One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.