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NVC Resources on Inclusivity

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

Acknowledging the Impact of Identity Within Social Change Movements

with Mary Mackenzie and Roxy Manning

Article • 23-35 mins •

Article
23-35 mins

In this transcript, clinical psychologist and organizational consultant, Roxy Manning, PhD, offers ways for us to increase our capacity to (1) See things that we otherwise wouldn't; (2) Bring more relevance to our groups, organizations and social change movements; (3) Talk openly about microaggressions: statements or (in)actions that (inadvertently) minimize, diminish or negate somebody's...

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

Acknowledging Other People’s Reality

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes •

Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes

Trainer Tip: Even if we don't agree, acknowledging others' realities can help demonstrate that we're including their feelings and needs in the conversation. Creating space for your reality and theirs can also bring a sense of connection, understanding, inclusion, abundance and fullness in life. Try it today. Read on for an example.

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 25 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes

Miki leads course participants in an exploration of connecting and understanding those with seemingly polar opposite beliefs and perspectives about COVID-19 pandemic vaccination. Miki demonstrates that to live nonviolently, we must include those whom we so strongly disagree with.

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

Increasing diversity in NVC circles

with Roxy Manning

Article • 9 - 13 minutes •

Article
9 - 13 minutes

Want to increase diversity, plus improve group dynamics and group functioning? There are things you can do to make NVC settings more welcoming to people of color. Learn more about how to use NVC; attend to impact; help the community understand and demonstrate more awareness; factor in historical context; engage; create a more inclusive climate; and more!

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

Viewing Needs Through an Equity Lens

with Roxy Manning

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

"All humans share the same needs" -- tragically, this idea can hide the reality that some people with less power in society have needs that go unmet to a greater extent, much longer, and with more dire consequences. Often, when the marginalized bring up experiences related to their membership in a certain group, their pain isn't acknowledged, and focus shifts to the listener's discomfort. The...

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

with NVC Academy Staff

Learning Tool • N/A •

Learning Tool
N/A

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”

Expanding The Circle Of Care

Expanding The Circle Of Care

Expanding The Circle Of Care

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 5 - 7 minutes •

Article
5 - 7 minutes

Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet.

The Circle Of Care, The Circle Of Trust, And Nonviolence

The Circle Of Care, The Circle Of Trust, And Nonviolence

The Circle Of Care, The Circle Of Trust, And Nonviolence

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

Part of nonviolence is having an infinite circle of care that includes simultaneous care of ourselves, others and groups: no one is beyond the pale. Plus, it's about having an infinite trust in the possibility that we can reach someone's heart even if we don't now know how -- since regardless of what this other person has done, they have the same needs. Without this kind of trust, nonviolence...

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

with Dian Killian

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

How do we address historical and present challenges regarding the invisibility of privilege and power? What can we do, especially if we are people with privilege, to transform these conditions? However challenging these kinds of situations are, and whatever our position, we can move towards more inclusivity by learning and doing significant inner and outer work.

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

Why Don’t They Get It?

with Roxy Manning

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening...

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

Can We Un-Skew Resource Distribution?

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 14 - 21 minutes •

Article
14 - 21 minutes

In learning how to re-invent the economic system so that it distributes resources in a way that includes as many people's needs as possible, we would need to be in a process of mutual influence with one another. However, addressing resource distribution can be complex when people in different social locations have 1.)a different sense of what's considered "enough" 2.) different capacities to...

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

Interdependence in Action: How to Change Agreements with Care

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 13 - 19 minutes •

Article
13 - 19 minutes

The awareness and practice of interdependence is integral to holding an NVC consciousness. Practicing interdependence also means bringing in a quality of care in the moments we want to change agreements with others. This article talks about where our various choices, in regards to changing agreements, fits into different levels of engaging our interdependence.

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 11 - 16 minutes •

Article
11 - 16 minutes

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of...

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

Developing Your Tracking Skills (Part 1)

with Mary Mackenzie

Video • 6 minutes •

Video
6 minutes

Mary offers tips for developing effective tracking skills, including how the energy of the group is managed discerning the qualities of presence for each of the members, and monitoring group participation while striving for a balance of inclusion.

A List of Needs We All Have

A List of Needs We All Have

A List of Needs We All Have

with NVC Academy Staff

Learning Tool • N/A •

Learning Tool
N/A

In a Nonviolent Communication model, we believe that everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need. That means that all actions or words are in service to a deep internal need. The following list of needs is neither exhaustive nor definitive.

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

Interdependence in the Face of Cultural Imperatives

with Arnina Kashtan

Audio • 1 hour, 2 minutes •

Audio
1 hour, 2 minutes

Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as explores interdependence, autonomy, valuing self and others, and power-sharing in your relationships. Free yourself to honor your longing for community, belonging, and love.

Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

with Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes •

Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or..."

Is NVC Always, in the End, “Just One-on-One”?

Is NVC Always, in the End, “Just One-on-One”?

Is NVC Always, in the End, “Just One-on-One”?

with Miki Kashtan

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes •

Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes

Ask the Trainer: "Can you share stories of transforming group conflict, or is NVC strictly intended for 'one-on-one' work?"