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NVC Resources on Connection


Connection, Connection, Connection

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
Trainer tip: Do you get into “right fights”? You know you’re in one when you’re arguing with somebody in order to be right or because you want to win. What needs do I hope to meet from winning or being right? Notice if you enter into a right fight today and shift your focus to your needs and connecting with the other person's needs.

Connection Requests: Motivations and Examples Article

Article • 6 - 9 minutes • 
Article
6 - 9 minutes
Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...

Tips for the Road Series: Tip 2. Cultivate Connection before Asking for Action

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

Crafting Connection Requests

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...

Create The Level Of Connection You Want: 3 Types Of Boundaries

Practice Exercise • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Practice Exercise
4 - 6 minutes
One way of simplifying decision-making in relationships is clarity about the level of contact and connection you want with the people you interact with. This means knowing what you want and don’t want to share, the kinds of activities you do and don’t do together, how often, etc. This can help you chose how to best support your needs in that context, and help you to remember to set life-serving...

Observation: The Awareness of the Thoughts, Stories and Core Beliefs to Enhance Connection

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes • 
Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes
In this recorded telecourse, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, guides you through processes to strengthen your capacity for mindful presence and awareness of your thinking, and to develop the skills to translate thoughts into observations.

Power Relations and Connection Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective (4 Session Course)

with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning
Audio • 3 hours, 17 minutes • 
Audio
3 hours, 17 minutes
Join CNVC Certified Trainers Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, for a passionate and intimate exploration of how NVC can support personal and social transformation in the area of power relations and social divisions.

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

Video • 9 minutes • 
Video
9 minutes
John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.

Connecting Across the COVID-19 Pandemic Vaccination Divide

Audio • 1 hour, 25 minutes • 
Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes
Miki leads course participants in an exploration of connecting and understanding those with seemingly polar opposite beliefs and perspectives about COVID-19 pandemic vaccination. Miki demonstrates that to live nonviolently, we must include those whom we so strongly disagree with.

Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 
Article
7 - 11 minutes
With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often...