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NVC Resources with John Kinyon


Navigating Conflict And The Hero/Heroine’s Journey

Trainer Tip • 3-5 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
3-5 minutes
The hero/heroine’s journey is a narrative arc and universal archetype at the heart of humanity’s most popular stories. Here, we can connect with the immense power of meaning, purpose, and inspiration, moving us to feel profound emotion, accomplish, and persevere through seemingly impossible challenges. In our polarized world we can think about responding to conflicts from this mythic narrative...

Control

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Control may help us feel safe in an unpredictable, unsafe, wild world. Wanting control may be a response to shielding ourselves from feeling fear and being aware of our vulnerability. The more we insulate from fear, discomfort, and vulnerability, the more we are cut off from aliveness; we can become more anxious, and depressed. The more we control the more we are disconnected from empathy and...

Empathy And Mindfulness With Inner Conversations Of Fear And Anxiety

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
We can shift from being absorbed and identified with our inner chatter and feelings to being the space of awareness of these things. Observe your breath. Then observe your mind generating thoughts. Next, feel sensations of your body, particularly the difficult ones. Now, connect with the underlying energy of needs. Ask your unconscious mind for universal needs words related to what you now...

Resistance

Article • 6-9 minutes • 
Article
6-9 minutes
There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly,...

Inoculation For Outrage

Trainer Tip • 4 - 6 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
4 - 6 minutes
When outraged or resigned over polarized issues, pause to ask yourself who may be benefiting from this conflict? What are we not paying attention to that’s even more important? What matters most? Am I being distracted away from something more important? What do I really want? Where can I choose to focus attention and action for the wellbeing of all life on the planet (which is also my wellbeing...

Empathic Connection and Politics

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
How do we talk to ourselves and with others about polarizing topics in a way that's supportive? Seek to understand and be understood rather than press for agreement. Bring mindfulness into the conversation. Slow down and use structure to support everyone. Release knowing the solutions, answers or outcomes. Keep focus on shared universal needs. From this place we can say what's in our hearts and...

Searching Together For A Way Forward

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
It's tempting to shut down a heated conversation when it’s painful and overwhelming. What can give us strength to stay open to hearing and being moved, to being open to new possibility, is recalling the “triad of conversation.” The triad is self and other and then awareness on the third side of the conversation. Here we can return to connection, to what we share and need in common, to a...

MLK, Nonviolence, and Communication

Trainer Tip • 2 - 3 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
2 - 3 minutes
“Nonviolence” is not just a political tactic. It is a “soul force”. It is the force of love meeting and transforming what appears to not be love. It is speaking and listening with courage, compassion, and an open heart and mind and rooted in our truth in a way that bridges understanding. And doing so without demand nor trying to convince -- all in the face of any anger, fear, oppression,...

The Tao of Empathy: Breath, Body, Needs, Self Connection Exercise

Video • 9 minutes • 
Video
9 minutes
John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.

Parenting and Anger: Walking the Ultimate Path to Peace (5 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 
Audio
6 - 8 hours
John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace.

Mediating Conflict Conversations with Observation, Feeling, Need, and Request

Audio • 44 minutes • 
Audio
44 minutes
Mediating a conflict conversation can be challenging – but with tools and practice, that challenge can be transformed. If you're curious about the specific steps needed to achieve that transformation, join John for an exploration of his non-dual mindfulness practice.

Healing and Reconciliation (7 Session Course)

Audio • 7 - 9 hours • 
Audio
7 - 9 hours
Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?

The Tao of Empathy: Practicing the Presence of Empathy and Four Elements of Empathic Connection

Audio • 2 hours, 10 minutes • 
Audio
2 hours, 10 minutes
In this recorded telecourse, John Kinyon, world renowned CNVC Certified Trainer, offers an overview and practice with four elements of empathy – presence, understanding/meaning, need language and deepening into needs.

NVC Mediation Level 1 Training: Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others (8 Session Course)

Audio • 11 - 14 hours • 
Audio
11 - 14 hours
This telecourse recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict.

Mediate Your Life: Chooser Educator Map

with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon
Audio • 12 minutes • 
Audio
12 minutes
When you have intrusive thoughts about yourself and feel ‘crummy,’ Ike recommends using the Chooser / Educator map as a guide to lead you out of the primitive part of your brain and back to your prefrontal cortex. Both the Chooser and the Educator want to contribute to your well being, but in different ways. This map facilitates having a positive conversation with them.

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