Alan Rafael Seid
CNVC Certified Trainer from Kendall, Washington, USA
Born in New York City, USA, Alan Seid grew up bilingual/bicultural in Mexico City, Mexico. He is a CNVC Certified Trainer and he has been studying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since 1995. He has trained primarily with the founder of the process, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D .while also attending many workshops with other trainers.
Alan brings a lively and engaging style to his trainings, combining humor, exercises for practice, a deep understanding of the theory behind the process, and a keen sensitivity to individual and group needs.
Alan has a university degree in Sustainability—the long-term health and vitality of people and communities in economy, ecology and culture. He also holds a certificate in Permaculture Design, which he practices where he lives with his wife and daughters on 25 acres in the foothills of Washington State’s North Cascade Mountains, USA.
Alan offers workshops in Permaculture Design, Financial Integrity (Your Money or Your Life), Integral Sustainability (based on Ken Wilber’s work and the 8-Shields Model, also known as the Acorn Model). In addition to his trainings, Alan offers meeting facilitation through Cascadia Workshops.
Website: Cascadia Workshops
Latest NVC Library Resources with Alan Rafael Seid
Sex Is The Least Private Act
The energy of the most private events of our lives (such as sex) can ripple out and affect everything we do, like the ripples of a rock thrown in a pond. Instead of segregating -or sometimes denying- parts of ourselves, we can bring our blind spots and our shadows in self and relationships into the light. Having growth in a private life can transfer onto other areas of life.
The Purpose Of Gratitude
Gratitude keeps us connected to what is working, rather than dwelling on what is not working. As a celebration – gratitude keeps us connected to the natural joy of giving. Receiving gratitude also serves the function of feedback, and lets us know that we are effectively contributing.
You Suck At Conflict
Avoiding conflict is an even greater issue than having conflict. Not being as competent at conflict we avoid it. And in many cases that creates more conflict. Conflict is inevitable because we have different perspectives. Conflict is not bad. It is an opportunity for increased connection, intimacy, joy, and creative win-win solutions. Instead of avoiding conflict, we can work on increasing our skill in handling conflict.
Keep It Real, Warts and All
Our craving for love, acceptance, and approval can lead us to show only parts of ourselves and hide others. This lack of authenticity breeds disconnection and mistrust, leading to those very needs not being met. Once I accept myself, being authentic is easier. And then people in my life can love me for who I really am, warts and all.
Heaven And Hell
Read this short Japanese parable that symbolically illustrates the outcomes of having a competitive mindset – in contrast to an interdependent, collaborative one where everyone wins. It’s a story that encapsulates part of the spirit of NVC.