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Bob Wentworth

CNVC Certified Trainer from California, USA

Bob Wentworth is a CNVC Certified Trainer, coach, and co-founder of Family HEART Camp (familyheartcamp.org). Bob focuses on ways to bring more love, empowerment, and wholeness into the world. Before discovering NVC, he realized that a key factor in most seemingly intractable social problems is our tendency to divide the world into Us and Them, and dismiss Them as somehow less than fully human and not worth listening to, thereby cutting off the flow of information needed to solve problems. NVC is the best practical antidote Bob has have found to this pervasive phenomenon, as well as offering a deep spiritual path. Bob has worked as a software architect and hasa Ph.D. in Applied Physics from Stanford University.

Latest NVC Library Resources with Bob Wentworth

Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 2 of 2

Here we explore variants of conflict patterns in part two (of this two part series) that include: refuting "straw man arguments"; not checking understanding, repeating unhelpful behaviour; repeatedly asking for what's already given; asserting rather than demonstrating responsiveness; assumptions; denying conflict exists; neglecting interdependence; stonewalling; absence of curiosity, humility, respect, empathy or care (even when reflecting).

Patterns That Perpetuate Conflict - Part 1 of 2

To resolve conflict, information of what's important to each party, plus corrections, needs to be included and built upon. Here we explore nine patterns of ongoing conflict, including diagnosis; assuming understanding; refuting; unhelpful communication mediums; over focus on intent over effect; and “hit-and-run” engagement. This is part one of a two part series.

Moving Towards Life-Serving Responsibility in NVC

In the "obnoxious stage" we care for our needs in a way that doesn't respect others' needs. In the "emotional liberation" stage we fully care for others' needs as much as our own—while being free of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Often NVC training teaches us how to achieve the latter stage without the former. For greater compassion we can be more rigorous in how we talk about “responsibility", impacts and interdependence.

Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on for more.

Trauma and Sanctuary

One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.