Choice: A field guide for navigating the polarization of our world and living interdependently is a nonfiction pocket book co-authored with Jared Finkelstein. This book is about creating a reflective space where the reader can explore choices and philosophical perspectives that go beyond right and wrong and into the realm of interdependent relationship. Based upon the key differentiations and principles of Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication, this book provides a rigorous investigation of the life-serving motivation embedded in concepts which sometimes appear as polar opposites. Through differentiation and nuanced exploration of these concepts, light is shed on the life-serving purpose at both ends of a seeming continuum between ideas. Readers are invited to apply on a personal level a consciousness that leads to self-responsibility, connection and collaboration. Choice would be of benefit to individuals, community leaders, city councils, schools, and organizations in their work with conflict resolution, more effective communication, decision-making, etc.
"I have been working as a trainer and a facilitator for over 30 years, facilitating from business trainings to spiritual retreats. I have lead trainings in almost 30 countries around the world, from Europe to Australia, from the US to Japan, from Mideast to French Polynesia, South Korea, Myanmar... A large part of my work is in organizations, be it leading skill-trainings or mediating conflicts and facilitating team decision making, team-coaching...
As I work in organizations I keep witnessing what an incredibly complex and demanding task leadership is, as it demands a constant evolution of the leader, an on-going and never-ending personal transformation. In a way, similar to the role of a parent.
And one of the skills that seems to require constant sharpening is the ability to achieve clarity; in our thoughts as well as in our articulation of our inner worlds, or in other words, in our communication.
As a mediator I keep witnessing how some confusion in thoughts and lack of precision in words can not only prevent the understanding from happening between individuals as well as in teams, but will likely actually deepen the cracks and worsen the situation.
And I can easily imagine that reading and rereading this book could be an ongoing and a very meaningful support to leaders across various contexts, or trainers, social workers, therapists, actually anybody who uses communication in their work.
Namely, while communication in essence stretches far beyond thoughts and words, the very purity of thoughts and the clarity it can bring, the differentiation between concepts, can establish a common denominator, a common platform for the meeting and connection to happen. One word can open a heart, and another word can trigger a reaction that will take hours or even weeks or years to heal.
So I would happily suggest everybody that finds communication as a crucial tool in life, to read and keep re-reading this book and thus bringing more and more clarity into the way they interact with themselves, others and life itself."
—Robert Krzisnik, MSc. Psych., CNVC Certified trainer and mediator
"Choice is a powerfully moving book about our experiences and understandings of this complex and paradoxical world. The language is beautiful and poetic. The structure encourages each person to think of the ways they understand and act in the world and to see for themselves the deeper value in seeing the world from a perspective of interdependence and harmony. The writers are encouraging wholeness, while gently and lovingly helping us to realize that our cultural training to individualism and separateness keep us from being our most healthy selves. At this intense time in the world, this book provides a profound meditation on life and hope for our collective future."
—Reverend Dr. Bob Salt, Professor of Human Development and Family Studies
"Organizations, like eco-systems, are communities of inter-connectedness and inter-dependence. If you are a leader who wants to develop your ability to discern and make choices that lead to results which enrich and sustain your organizational community, you will want to access Choice as a resource time and again."
—Christine Flaherty, MHA, Healthcare Executive