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NVC Resources with Dian Killian

Tips for Bringing NVC to Work

Tips for Bringing NVC to Work

Tips for Bringing NVC to Work

with Dian Killian

Video • 15 minutes •

Video
15 minutes

Listen in as Dian shares her tips and sense of urgency around bringing NVC skills to work: 1) How to use your imagination (visualization!) to help you connect with somatic responses and needs; and 2) Five built-in advantages to sharing NVC in the work place.

Transforming Society Through Organizations

Transforming Society Through Organizations

Transforming Society Through Organizations

with Dian Killian

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

When we apply and practice NVC over a number of months in an organization, it can create group norms that make learning go deep faster. These new norms can impact people's interactions with others both inside and outside of work. From here, there's potential for people to start seeing value when they share these skills and experiences. This may create a ripple effect of interest in applying NVC...

Sitting With Not Knowing: Embracing the Heart of Nonviolent Communication

Sitting With Not Knowing: Embracing the Heart of Nonviolent Communication

Sitting With Not Knowing: Embracing the Heart of Nonviolent Communication

with Dian Killian

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

Sitting with not knowing is an NVC skill because its the opposite of reactivity. In our haste to find relief from the discomfort of not knowing, we often become defensive, jump to conclusions, and blame and criticize others. Sitting with not knowing requires us to suspend our distrust, tolerate fear and uncertainty - creating space within us. NVC provides a way forward to enter into a space of...

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

NVC at Work: Transforming Organizations with Nonviolent Communication (6 Session Course)

with Dian Killian

Audio • 6 - 8 hours •

Audio
6 - 8 hours

Listen and learn how to: Talk about NVC in a way that has meaning and relevance for companies and organizations, showing a clear ROI (return on investment). Draw on different applications of NVC for the workplace: addressing change in management, management issues / styles, morale / teamwork, employee retention, etc. Create a value-based training proposal (with different service and product...

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

Street NVC: "Street Ease" Empathy Exercise

with Dian Killian

Practice Exercise • 5 minutes •

Practice Exercise
5 minutes

Listen to CNVC Certified Trainer Dian Killian guide and ease you into a more natural expression of empathy. This is a three person exercise. Listen in and then give it a try!

Reframing OFNR for the Workplace

Reframing OFNR for the Workplace

Reframing OFNR for the Workplace

with Dian Killian

Audio • 7 minutes •

Audio
7 minutes

Listen in as Dian reframes the 4 steps of NVC (observations, feelings, needs, requests) into everyday words you might hear at work.

Tip: Demystifying Empathy Guesses

Tip: Demystifying Empathy Guesses

Tip: Demystifying Empathy Guesses

with Dian Killian

Trainer Tip • 6 minutes •

Trainer Tip
6 minutes

Here's a quick tip to improve your empathy skills with empathy guessing.

Empathy Hacking: The Art and Science of Empathy Guessing

Empathy Hacking: The Art and Science of Empathy Guessing

Empathy Hacking: The Art and Science of Empathy Guessing

with Dian Killian

Video • 45 minutes •

Video
45 minutes

Empathy guessing when I was new to NVC seemed magical and mysterious. How could that other person have known that about me? And seen inside me — often in ways I'd missed myself. While empathy is both intuitive and an art, there is also a science to it. In this brief yet fascinating introduction to Dian's course, Empathy Hacking, you'll learn a super-practical way to demystify empathy guessing...

Living in Full Authenticity

Living in Full Authenticity

Living in Full Authenticity

with Dian Killian

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

In life, relationships, and organizations, authenticity is the bedrock of effectiveness. It can give rise to effective dialogues, information flow, intimacy, accountability, decision making and follow through. NVC can give us more tools to live with rigor around our authenticity...

What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

What Do You Deserve? And Do You Really Want to Deserve Anything?

with Dian Killian

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

We can trick ourselves into keeping the status quo, feeling unworthy, and blocking access to critical awareness necessary that allows for new creative solutions to emerge -- when we think in terms of who has "earned" or “deserved” what.

Self-Management = More Joy at Work

Self-Management = More Joy at Work

Self-Management = More Joy at Work

with Dian Killian

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

Want to manage more effectively with more ease and joy and get your staff to make changes? The first, crucial step is to learn how to change your behavior to impact what's happening. For example, we can get the inner clarity we need to reframe questions we ask ourselves, recap, make clear requests, give concrete feedback, etc. This article expands on how self-management can increase influence...

Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace

with Dian Killian

Article • 7 - 11 minutes •

Article
7 - 11 minutes

Sitting with uncertainty can be very uncomfortable and evoke anxiety. Or it can be a practice that brings in the curiosity and inner spaciousness that allows for creative solutions to emerge, and that help us to relax our attachment to outcomes. Here's a closer look...

Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

Embracing the Body: Learning Compassion as a “Felt-Sense”

with Dian Killian

Article • 5 - 8 minutes •

Article
5 - 8 minutes

Our "felt-sense" can provide crucial information about our experience and our lives. It can also help us integrate and retain information. This can also bring greater access to internal resources, choice, open heartedness, collaboration and creative solutions. From there, profound insight and transformation can follow. Here's how we can harness that...

The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

The NVC Model: A Map to Your Intentions

with Dian Killian

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection. The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc). Once we let the map drop away, we...

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

What’s Love Got To Do With It? A Thousand Ways to Say, “I Love You”

with Dian Killian

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?). This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

with Dian Killian

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and...

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

with Dian Killian

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in...

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

with Dian Killian

Article • 9 - 14 minutes •

Article
9 - 14 minutes

Some people in the NVC community consider the words "privilege" and "power" triggering and/or evaluative. From this perspective, how can the concepts of "privilege" and "power" be considered part of the NVC teaching? This writing piece examines the power and privilege debate. It also discusses what the author sees as Marshall Rosenberg and Gandhi's stance on the subject...

How Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects Women, Fishbowl Discussion

How Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects Women, Fishbowl Discussion

How Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects Women, Fishbowl Discussion

with Dian Killian, PhD and Mary Mackenzie

Video • 1 hour, 22 minutes •

Video
1 hour, 22 minutes

Join Dian Killian and Mary Mackenzie for a provocative fishbowl discussion about how privilege and lack of privilege affect women.

Street NVC: Bringing Your NVC Practice into Everyday Life! (4 Session Course)

Street NVC: Bringing Your NVC Practice into Everyday Life! (4 Session Course)

Street NVC: Bringing Your NVC Practice into Everyday Life! (4 Session Course)

with Dian Killian

Audio • 3 - 4 hours •

Audio
3 - 4 hours

Listen to CNVC Certified Trainer Dian Killian show you how to easily step into the mindset of an NVC practice—the spirit of connection and collaboration—that will support you in authentically connecting with others.

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