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NVC Resources with Miki Kashtan

Ego, Mind, and Culture

Ego, Mind, and Culture

Ego, Mind, and Culture

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

The “mind” or our “ego” are often depicted as a static entity, an unchangable part of human nature, and as obstacles or negative parts of ourselves to overcome. This view creates maligning, a split within us, while remaining invisibly part and parcel of authority-based societies --the dominant culture and institutions into which we are born. Instead, I want to advocate an integration of reason...

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

The Nuts and Bolts of Not Taking Things Personally

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 12 - 18 minutes •

Article
12 - 18 minutes

Why is it so difficult to not take things personally? It's because everything reinforces the sense that whatever is being said is indeed about us – both from without and from within. However, we can get better at not taking things personally with a practice of shifting our focus by being open to multiple interpretations, understanding that our reaction is about our own need, and noticing how...

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

The Powers No One Can Take Away From Us

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 16 - 24 minutes •

Article
16 - 24 minutes

We can choose our stories of interpretation, and how to respond. And while stories of self-sufficiency can (to a degree) give us more influence over our own lives, they don't erase oppression, war, nor climate change. When stories omit a lens that includes impacts of interdependence, oppression, and structural inequities, stories can also keep us disconnected and blocked from compassion for...

Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? The Case of Nonviolent Communication - Part 1 of 2

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 15 - 23 minutes •

Article
15 - 23 minutes

By focusing on NVC process and practice without factoring in the interdependent, systemic dimension we unwittingly diminish the power of NVC. We reinforce the dominant paradigm, rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we...

Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship (4 Session Course)

Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship (4 Session Course)

Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship (4 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 4 - 6 hours •

Audio
4 - 6 hours

Taking 100% Responsibility offers a powerful antidote to the all-too-common dynamic of blaming that leaves you in the victim position and unable to have the relationship you want. Miki invites you to assume a stance of leadership while holding full care for both parties’ needs. No longer will you need to wait for the other person to change, nor will you need to give up your needs to reach...

Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 6 - 8 hours •

Audio
6 - 8 hours

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed – or locked into passivity? This course offers you a way out. Learn to change the way you perceive leadership, and you’ll help yourself respond more powerfully and proactively every day of your life – wherever you are – and whomever you’re with!

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (4 Session Course)

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (4 Session Course)

Embracing Leadership within Yourself (4 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 4 - 6 hours •

Audio
4 - 6 hours

Join Miki as she covers a lot of territory, defining leadership, helping us lead when we're not in the leadership chair, showing us how to have power in every moment and engage our fear instead of let it run us. Get some powerful leadership tools you can put to use today.

Leadership within Your Workplace (4 Session Course)

Leadership within Your Workplace (4 Session Course)

Leadership within Your Workplace (4 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 4 - 6 hours •

Audio
4 - 6 hours

Most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.” This course offers you the opportunity to learn how to consciously change this mindset, and have a positive impact on workplace culture and attitudes along the way. Most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.” This course offers you the opportunity to learn how to consciously...

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 8 - 11 hours •

Audio
8 - 11 hours

This 5-session telecourse recording is designed to support you in learning what makes giving and receiving feedback challenging and how you can turn these experiences into opportunities for learning, connection, and effective functioning.

Money, Needs, and Resources

Money, Needs, and Resources

Money, Needs, and Resources

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 9 - 13 minutes •

Article
9 - 13 minutes

Unless we change our collective ways on the planet, we will one day exceed the earth’s carrying capacity. We can only address the planet's very real limits of physical resources at the level of social organization. To operate empathically is to adjust our collective social order and patterns so that resources are more widely available and everyone's needs are met no matter what their output,...

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

How I Changed My Relationship to Time

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 8 - 12 minutes •

Article
8 - 12 minutes

What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

Holding Dilemmas Together in the Workplace

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 11 - 16 minutes •

Article
11 - 16 minutes

When we are transparent about our concerns, brainstorm solutions together, and look towards making a decision with the other person, we can increase understanding, partnership, and mutual support. This invites people to work on the same issue from the same direction, collaboratively seek solutions, and tap a deeper wisdom. In the end, the future survival of our species depends on this kind of...

Starting the Future Today

Starting the Future Today

Starting the Future Today

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 6 - 9 minutes •

Article
6 - 9 minutes

We can dream and wait for the day to do things differently, or we can continually take steps towards the future of our dreams as though it were here now. The future will not be significantly different from the present if we all act as if change is not possible or only possible after it's already happened. Instead, we can immediately consider everything we do as the possible seed of change...

Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 13 - 20 minutes •

Article
13 - 20 minutes

Our world trains us to think in terms of providing for everyone’s needs because they deserve it, earned it, or they possess the resources -- it's fair, socially just, supports equality or because people have rights. Instead, can we step outside this worldview to look at providing for everyone’s needs because those needs exist -- can we hold this basic reverence for life? Are we able to have a...

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Money, Value, and Our Choices

Money, Value, and Our Choices

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 10 - 15 minutes •

Article
10 - 15 minutes

How much money to pay? And how much money to ask for? The supply and demand logic basically say that we ask for the most that “the market can absorb” and pay “the least that we can get away with.” We can instead, we can engage in experiments that focus on connecting to and satisfying needs. We can also engage with our varying degrees of access to resources within the existing economy and...

Theoretical Underpinnings of NVC (8 Session Course)

Theoretical Underpinnings of NVC (8 Session Course)

Theoretical Underpinnings of NVC (8 Session Course)

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 8 - 12 hours •

Audio
8 - 12 hours

Bring your inquisitive mind and open heart to Miki Kashtan's Theoretical Underpinnings of NVC and learn the principles that underlie the NVC practice.

The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

The Heart of the Matter: Connecting More Deeply to Your Feelings and Needs

with Miki Kashtan

Audio • 2 hours, 21 minutes •

Audio
2 hours, 21 minutes

Do you want to increase your capacity to identify and connect with feelings and needs? Would you like to enhance your ability to translate judgments? Join Miki for this deep dive into feelings and needs.

Overcoming Defensiveness

Overcoming Defensiveness

Overcoming Defensiveness

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 5 - 7 minutes •

Article
5 - 7 minutes

A big part of why receiving feedback is so challenging is because so few people around us know how to give feedback untainted with criticism, judgment, or our personal upset. But, if we wait for others to offer us usable, digestible, manageable feedback, we will not likely receive sufficient feedback for our growth and learning. Instead, we can grow in our capacity to fish the pearl that’s...

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

Steps Towards Meaningful Action

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 4 - 6 minutes •

Article
4 - 6 minutes

We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.)...

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

with Miki Kashtan

Article • 3 - 5 minutes •

Article
3 - 5 minutes

How do we address historical and present challenges regarding the invisibility of privilege and power? What can we do, especially if we are people with privilege, to transform these conditions? However challenging these kinds of situations are, and whatever our position, we can move towards more inclusivity by learning and doing significant inner and outer work.

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