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Sex Is The Least Private Act

Sex Is The Least Private Act

Sex Is The Least Private Act

with Alan Rafael Seid
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
The energy of the most private events of our lives (such as sex) can ripple out and affect everything we do, like the ripples of a rock thrown in a pond. Instead of segregating -or sometimes denying- parts of ourselves, we can bring our blind spots and our shadows in self and relationships into the light. Having growth in a private life can transfer onto other areas of life.
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Increasing Presence Through Observations

Increasing Presence Through Observations

Increasing Presence Through Observations

with John Kinyon
Practice Exercise • 00:26 hours:minutes • 
Practice Exercise
00:26 hours:minutes
John Kinyon leads participants through two Observation Exercises to strengthen their ability to be present. Through the exercises, John distinguishes the difference between feelings, which are emotions felt inside the body, and observations which are witness to our experience.
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Let it RAIN!

Let it RAIN!

Let it RAIN!

with Jim Manske
Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 
Article
5 - 8 minutes
This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.
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Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Even when it's tempting to coerce or match might with might, we can strive to meet our needs without negatively affecting others. Instead of convincing anyone to do it our way or to value the same things we value, we can focus on what we value: compassion among people and valuing everyone’s needs. By doing this we are actually more likely to meet our own needs and we are better...
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Stimulus vs. Cause

Stimulus vs. Cause

Stimulus vs. Cause

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer tip: Notice how the exact same actions can stimulate different feelings depending on if your needs are met or unmet. So while what people say or do is the stimulus, the actual cause of our feelings comes from our met or unmet needs. Read on for more on this.
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Defining Enough

Defining Enough

Defining Enough

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer tip: If you have a goal, want to be a "success", or want to do "your best', define what that would look like, and how much. Identify one goal and one thing you can do today to achieve that goal and do it.
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Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Communicating Our Deepest Desires

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
Trainer Tip: When we "protect" ourselves by not asking for what we want, we block ourselves from getting our needs met. From here, disappointment and resentment can build -- especially if this is a pattern. Instead, notice when you're tempted to do this, and be honest and upfront about what you want to improve the quality of your relationships.
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The Value of Just Being

The Value of Just Being

The Value of Just Being

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • N/A • 
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When it comes to how you're achieving your goals, notice what you value. Is achievement coming at others' expense? Where is your sense of worth and validation derived from? Do other people in some way set the bar that you strive to surpass? Without comparing to other people, what does success mean to you? Read on for a related story.
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The Importance of Making Requests

The Importance of Making Requests

The Importance of Making Requests

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: Requests include a specific action to help us get our needs met. If we have a complaint or in conflict, and we don’t make specific requests, people are left guessing and/or wondering about what will meet our needs. Our chances for getting our needs met can then become limited. Instead, try ending with a request to let the other person know exactly what you would like to happen.
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Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Choosing Whom We Empathize With

with Mary Mackenzie
Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their...
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