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Love as a Need

Trainer Tip The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed. —J. Krishnamurti In Nonviolent Communication, we consider love to be a need. Remember that needs are universal; everyone has the same ones. We all need love, but the ways in which we express it can be very...
NVC Conversations About Privilege and Power-Over

Last year, Mary Mackenzie of the NVC Academy organized an online symposium Removing Our Blinders: Seeing the Impact of Power and Privilege that I consider courageous and visionary. The symposium offered an opportunity for those of European background, men, women, and people of color to share their experiences and for others to empathically listen. The calls struck me as poignant, empathic,...
Empathy in the Face of Powerful Structures

Here's an inspiring story of one citizen (the author) who faced a police officer and judge in court to contest a transit ticket... and inspired structural changes in the way one aspect of New York City transit operates. She inspires change with her application of empathy for self and others, acknowledgement, connecting requests -- and an inspiring vision of understanding, shared reality and...
Enjoying the Jackal Show

Trainer Tip "Any change in one part of your life affects all other parts." —Gloria Karpinski When I am emotionally charged, my brain can begin an internal chatter that keeps me from focusing on the situation I’m in. Before I learned Compassionate Communication, I tried to ignore this chatter or censor it by thinking, “Oh, Mary, you shouldn’t feel that way. Don’t be so impatient. She’s not...
Learning From Our Regrets

Trainer Tip Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity. —Louis Pasteur Changing our focus from trying to win and be right to connecting is a paradigm shift. We are bound to make mistakes in the beginning, which may cause discomfort. Consider the times when you didn’t respond the way you wanted. How could you have handled that situation...
Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

I know I am done working my way through something when I get to a place of feeling grateful for it. That’s when I know that I have assimilated the events, and am open to life again. Sometimes it takes years (some things I may not finish while alive, I am quite sure of that), and sometimes it takes only moments. This morning I went from acute helplessness to gratitude in less than an hour, and I...
Building Understanding

Using NVC to foster understanding and connection across divided groups. Keywords: presence blame judgment personal growth relationships politics Liv Larsson
Let it RAIN!

suffering and alienation in relationships. He introduces the RAIN method—Recognize, Accept, Insight, Need—as a powerful practice to identify and transform destructive thought patterns, fostering connection and well-being. By cultivating self-compassion and clarifying unmet needs, you are guided to break free from cycles of resentment and embrace creativity, openness, and deeper intimacy in their...
Learning How to Listen

Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen. Read this article This article was originally published on Oren's Website: https://www.orenjaysofer.com Keywords: listening intention presence defensiveness receptivity dialogue conversation...
3 Key Principles for Successful Needs Based Negotiation

There are many layers of consciousness, knowledge, and skill that contribute to a successful negotiation. A successful negotiation is one where honor and connection lead to a way forward, and leads to a plan of action that considers and meets everyone's needs in that situation. Read on for three fundamental principles that help with successful needs-based negotiation. See this article Keywords:...