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Using Anger as a Warning

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 02/09/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
02/09/2005

Trainer Tip: If you are feeling anger, you are experiencing an unmet need. When you recognize it as a warning signal, it can be a life-serving tool.


Self-Righteous Anger

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 08/31/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/31/2005

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.


Change Happens

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/07/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/07/2005

Trainer Tip: The needs we focus on meeting and the strategies we use to meet those needs change over time. Mary shares about the life-serving nature of change.


Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Meditation

Video • 8 minutes • 10/20/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Video
8 minutes
10/20/2022

Practice leads to change of consciousness! Enjoy an MBSR guided practice with Stephanie Bachmann Mattei: STOP = Stop, Take a few mindful breaths, Observe, and Proceed.


NVC Life Hacks 21: Shame and the fear of doing it wrong

Video • 5 minutes • 07/09/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
5 minutes
07/09/2020

When was the last time you were in a situation with an overwhelming feeling of shame or an unnerving fear of 'doing it wrong'? Sometimes we get sweaty palms or a dry mouth, maybe we freeze on the spot or start an unhelpful internal monologue that makes the situation feel even worse. In this months NVC Life Hack Gesine takes a closer look at her own experience with shame and the fear of doing it wrong.


Moving Beyond Needs as Met or Unmet

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 10/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
10/2019

Sometimes when we regard needs as something that could be met or unmet by another person or by a situation we unconsciously hold the belief that our needs should be met. Or we end up holding blame or implying wrongdoing. People are more likely to resist a request made from this stance. Instead, here are practices to increasingly losen any remaining attachment or demand energy -- and open our hearts to ourselves and others while we make requests.


Conflict Improv: Connecting with Kids

Video • 9 minutes • 2008
Beginner Skill Level
Video
9 minutes
2008

In this upbeat video, CNVC Certified Trainers Kelly Bryson, Christine King and Jean Morrison enact two role plays that involve a triggered adult interacting with a young student and a teacher who has just witnessed an unpleasant interaction between two students.


How To Understand Control

Practice Exercise • 2 - 3 minutes • 05/05/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
2 - 3 minutes
05/05/2022

When someone behaves in a way that you may label convincing, cajoling, guilt-tripping, threatening, analyzing, or criticizing, you may be tempted to guess they have a "need" for control. Instead, name what this person is doing that isn't meeting your needs. If it is a true need your heart will have softened. If you feel resentment or resistance, you are likely making a judgment rather than guessing what they are needing.


Dealing With Disappointment

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/4/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
12/4/2021

Disappointment emerges when there is a gap between what we want, expect or hope for, and what is happening. When this occurs it can be tempting to make someone or the situation wrong. Instead, rather than pushing against the flow of life we can rejoin it, non-judgmentally notice our observations and feelings. Plus we can nurture acceptance and mourning. We can also remember that what's happening isn't permanent.


How I Changed My Relationship to Time

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 1/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 - 12 minutes
1/2012

What would happen if you considered that time is a concept, and that it doesn't rule your life? What would it mean to make all choices based on needs and not on time? Do you obey the external rhythm of the clock over and above the internal rhythm of your life energy? This is an invitation into more responsibility, awareness, honesty, choice and freedom.


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