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Self-Righteous Anger

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 08/31/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
08/31/2005

Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.


Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

Practice Exercise • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/29/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
1 - 2 minutes
1/29/2022

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that your needs “have to” be met.


How to Find Strength During a Crisis

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 03/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
03/2020

During a crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic, we can draw upon inner and outer resources: gratitude, awareness of our senses and breath, plus compassion for self and others. We can also expand our understanding to curtail fear -- and limit the amount of time and energy we spend fighting and resisting the truth of what’s happening.


Do We Stand a Chance?

Article • 5-7 minutes • 09/2020
All Skill Levels
Article
5-7 minutes
09/2020

With a world in crisis, steeped in incomprehensible violence, how do we then live? What, if anything, could turn this around? If we're all dying, let us die loving everyone, including ourselves and our former enemies. Let us come together behind wanting everyone to be free. Let us align means with ends as we envision a world that, against all odds, moves towards working for all of life. Let us dedicate our lives to service, to courage, to speaking truth, and to love.


How to Energize Compassion in Yourself and Family Members this Holiday Season

Audio • 46 minutes • 12/05/2012
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
46 minutes
12/05/2012

This holiday, shift your focus from what disappoints you to the true whisperings of your heart. Compassion is an inside-outside process. In this telecourse recording, you will experience four simple tools for savoring your own precious needs, allowing you to experience greater compassion and harmony this holiday.


Responding to Criticism: At Work and At Home

Article • 7 - 11 minutes • 5/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
7 - 11 minutes
5/2019

In general, criticism is a reactive response discomfort. When someone criticizes, they are not yet able or willing take responsibility for their needs. All criticism is a tragic expression of feelings and unmet needs. When you meet that criticism skillfully you not only care for yourself, you can facilitate clarity, and constructive communication, about what the other person is truly asking for.


Judging and Feeling Judged

Audio • 18 minutes • 06/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
18 minutes
06/2008

In this potent audio, expert trainer Miki Kashtan demonstrates the eye-opening experience of translating judgments into needs. She works with a mother who is stuck in a loop of feeling judged by family members and judging them back.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 10. Take It to the Trees

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."


NVC Flow

Learning Tool • 1 - 2 minutes • 1/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Learning Tool
1 - 2 minutes
1/2010

This single-page handout illustrates the steps to translating habitual judgements and actions into OFNR.


Stimulus vs. Cause

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer tip: Notice how the exact same actions can stimulate different feelings depending on if your needs are met or unmet. So while what people say or do is the stimulus, the actual cause of our feelings comes from our met or unmet needs. Read on for more on this.


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