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Parenting Series: Listening for the Needs

Video • 15 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Video
15 minutes
2005

Using her own and participants' examples, Inbal illuminates parents on where they might be struggling with connecting to their children's needs, especially in situations where the children are responding to the parent's request.


Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

Video • 8 minutes • 2005
Beginner Skill Level
Video
8 minutes
2005

Inbal speaks to a group about our habit of demanding something of our children but making it sound like a request, the components of a true request and the importance of being honest when making a demand.


Resolving Conflict in Congregations

Audio • 10 minutes • 02/11/2012
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
10 minutes
02/11/2012

LoraKim explores what gets in the way of seeing the inherent worth and dignity of others when there is conflict in congregations. The strategies LoraKim offers can be applied to any spiritual community.


Meeting Our Need for Rest

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/23/2022
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
9/23/2022

Trainer Tip: We all have different ways to meet our need for rest. It's important to notice when you need that time. You might know you need rest when you find yourself snapping at people on the phone, when you snap at your cat, or when you ignore your partner. Rather than behave in ways that you might regret, consider doing something that will help you meet your need for rest. Everyone in your life will benefit.


Celebrating Mourning

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 2005
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
2005

In a recent vacation in a Mexican village, I was surprised to find myself in the midst of a community in mourning. Two days before I came, a 21-year-old girl had died in a car accident. Everyone in the town knew her and was openly affected by her death.


The Apology: Brussel Sprouts for the Relationship

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Video • 1 hour, 1 minute • 11/16/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 1 minute
11/16/2019

How do you repair a relationship when your words or actions unintentionally impact another in a negative way? And what keeps you from apologizing? Join Lore to explore – and answer – these questions and more!


Meeting Our Need for Trust

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
All Skill Levels
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When you suspect someone is lying, consider how it may be less important what the truth is. Instead, notice whether your need for trust is met. Without blame, nor labelling. you can make specific requests to meet your needs, while also respecting the other person’s needs. Read on for more.


Foundational NVC Skills: Requests

Audio • 1 hour, 25 minutes • 11/15/2010
Beginner Skill Level
Audio
1 hour, 25 minutes
11/15/2010

Marshall Rosenberg suggests that there are two requests that are the most transformative to relationships, (1) What’s alive in both of us? and (2) What would make life more wonderful for both of us?  This telecourse recording offers an easy-to-digest overview of how carefully crafted requests inspire joyful relationships.


Another False Dichotomy: Selfish vs Selfless

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 05/30/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
05/30/2022

If we’re selfish, all we care about is our own needs. If we’re selfless, our needs don’t enter the picture; others needs are the focus. But what if serving others meets our needs? What if being only selfish ultimately results in our needs being unmet? Do you find yourself bouncing between being a selfless doormat and then resenting it, and beating yourself up for being “selfish”? Instead, care about others’ needs AND your needs.


Practicing Non-Reactivity

Article • 3 - 5 minutes • 3/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
3 - 5 minutes
3/2019

For this practice assume that reactivity is arising any time you are distracted and not enjoying something. Practice throughout the day by focusing your attention for a few moments on something specific that you find pleasing. Notice the sensation of joy or pleasure in your body, and hold attention there longer than usual. This interrupts tension and contraction. Keep remembering to do this. When you go too long without directing your attention in this way, the practice becomes less accessible.


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