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Silent Empathy

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 11/16/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
11/16/2005

Trainer Tip: Silent empathy can be a powerful way of contributing to someone's life, giving them the gift of our presence.


Communicating Our Deepest Desires

Trainer Tip • 1-2 minutes • 10/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1-2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: When we "protect" ourselves by not asking for what we want, we block ourselves from getting our needs met. From here, disappointment and resentment can build -- especially if this is a pattern. Instead, notice when you're tempted to do this, and be honest and upfront about what you want to improve the quality of your relationships.


Privilege and Needs - Part 1

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 06/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
06/2011

There's the real need. And then there's the privilege that’s offered as a substitute for it. Privilege substitutes support the existing structure of society. It can look to us as if giving up the privilege would amount to giving up everything -- if we don't believe the real needs can even be experienced. If we connected directly to the needs, we could become subversive, agents of change.


Inner Maps of Conflict

Audio • 9 minutes • 09/12/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes
09/12/2011

In this brief audio segment, John Kinyon offers a guided tour of our inner maps of conflict, including interpersonal mediation, chooser/educator, enemy images and making amends maps.


Is Nonviolent Use of Force an Oxymoron?

Article • 37 - 56 minutes • 05/2020
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
37 - 56 minutes
05/2020

What do we actually mean by “use of force” and what counts as such? Here's a template that will be unpacked in this article: "Use of force is consistent with nonviolence to the extent that we use the least amount of force possible, with the most love possible, aiming at (re)creating conditions for dialogue; that we make the choice using as much nonreactive discernment as possible, with as much support for the choice as possible, and while mourning not seeing another way to respond to a situation in which vital needs are at stake except to use force". Read on for more.


Becoming a Change Agent Everywhere You Go (4 Session Course)

Audio • 6 - 8 hours • 10/7/2015
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
6 - 8 hours
10/7/2015

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed – or locked into passivity? This course offers you a way out. Learn to change the way you perceive leadership, and you’ll help yourself respond more powerfully and proactively every day of your life – wherever you are – and whomever you’re with!


Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

Learning Tool • N/A • 2013
Introductory Skill Level
Learning Tool
N/A
2013

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”


From Awareness to Action: Creating Bridges Across Differences (6 Session Course)

Audio • 10 -12 hours • 09/10/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
10 -12 hours
09/10/2019

For many people, attempting to connect with others across differences can feel akin to walking through a minefield. With humility, tenderness, and courage, Roxy challenges your perspectives and encourages you to open your heart and mind. Roxy uses concrete examples and visual tools to illustrate complex concepts.


Creating Peace and Change: A Multi-Level Approach

Article • 12 - 18 minutes • 1/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
12 - 18 minutes
1/2018

Why does NVC practice, and NVC training/coaching, appear to be not enough to bridge divides between people? This article takes a look at the trickle down effect of our societal conditioning, what we can add to our NVC lense, and what we can do "upstream" when NVC doesn't seem to be enough. Additionally, the article talks about unseen constraints that men, women and minority groups face in organizational settings...


Expanding The Circle Of Care

Article • 5 - 7 minutes • 02/11/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 7 minutes
02/11/2022

Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet.


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