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NVC Life Hacks 5: Conflict

Video • 3 minutes • 07/18/2018
Beginner Skill Level
Video
3 minutes
07/18/2018

Conflict occurs when disagreements undermine the sense of trust and safety in family, workplace, or community. Shantigarbha shares nine tips for addressing, and even transforming conflict.


Balancing All Needs as a NVC Facilitator (yours, individuals members and in a group)

Video • 1 hour, 36 minutes • 05/12/2018
Intermediate Skill Level
Video
1 hour, 36 minutes
05/12/2018

Ever wondered how to balance everyone’s needs when leading a NVC group? In the first part of the video, Mary shares tips how to balance the facilitator's, the individuals members' and the group's needs. In the second part, Mary talks about transparency as a facilitator - what does it mean, what does it look like and how to be transparent in a way that is supportive for the group.

 


Expressing Our Pain Without Blame

Article • 4 - 6 minutes • 08/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
4 - 6 minutes
08/2011

The more we can stay present with our hurt, and own our interpretations, we are more likely to express what's important to us without blame and also to become resilient. From there, the listener can have more space to offer their full presence and empathy. Read on for more.


How To Interrupt Gossip

Practice Exercise • 3-5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Intermediate Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3-5 minutes
05/05/2022

Reflect on a time when you were either expressing gossip or participating passively. What feelings and needs were up for you at the time? How might you have interrupted the gossip with connection? When interrupting gossip it can take a few rounds of empathy and honest expression to bridge understanding, and create a space in which mutual care and curiosity arises. Read on for an example.


10 Ways To Identify Your Needs

Practice Exercise • 3 -5 minutes • 05/05/2022
Beginner Skill Level
Practice Exercise
3 -5 minutes
05/05/2022

To learn to identify and speak from your needs requires specific tasks and practices. Here's a list of 10 learning tasks and practices for you to choose from. Some of these ideas include using needs cards and lists, working backwards from strategies and ideal scenarios, reflecting on past experiences and relationships, and asking for/offering/exchanging empathy.


Workplace Series: The Distinction Between Giving Feedback and Wanting to be Heard

Audio • 9 minutes • 10/2008
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
9 minutes
10/2008

Listen to Miki make an important distinction between giving feedback, which is grounded in a desire to contribute to another, and our own need to be heard.


To Vaccinate or Not to Vaccinate - How to Connect With What Matters

Article • 8 - 12 minutes • 8/2021
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8 - 12 minutes
8/2021

To help you stay connected to yourself and the other person when in challenging discussions about COVID-19 vaccines or other hot issues, without labeling others as reactive or otherwise, you can begin by tracking signs of your own reactivity to bring mindfulness onboard, then shifting your attention to universal needs; and asking to connect about it later. Read on for more.


Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 10/2005
Introductory Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
10/2005

Trainer Tip: Every time you criticize yourself, you cause yourself to feel shame and guilt, which promotes depression and stagnation. Instead, bringing in more self compassion can increase opportunities for change. Do this by acknowledging your needs (or values) that aren’t met by your actions. Read on for how to do this.


Feedback without Criticism (5 Session Course)

Audio • 8 - 11 hours • 02/08/2011
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 - 11 hours
02/08/2011

This 5-session telecourse recording is designed to support you in learning what makes giving and receiving feedback challenging and how you can turn these experiences into opportunities for learning, connection, and effective functioning.


Tips for the Road Series: Tip 15. Keep Asking for Help

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 01/2016
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
01/2016

Asking for help is difficult for many of us, but can yield rich rewards.


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