Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries
Article
8-12 minutes
11/2019
Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.
Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/30/2021
Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.
Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx
Video
15 minutes
04/08/2014
Are we really safer when we put those who harm others behind bars and forget about them? Explore turning our prisons into houses of healing and creating connections that lead to greater safety for our communities.
Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It
Article
5 - 8 minutes
09/2019
Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news cycle.
How to Interrupt
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."
Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost
Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost
Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/27/2005
Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.
The Timing of Making A Request
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/29/2021
It's important to make requests specific and doable. Also, without a swift request immediately after we state our observation, feeling, and need in regard to the situation, the other person is left guessing what we want. Instead, a swift request can bring clarity and lessen the potential for the listener to become defensive or argue.
Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007
Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or ..."
NVC Life Hacks 25: Deepening the roots of self-empathy
NVC Life Hacks 25: Deepening the roots of self-empathy
NVC Life Hacks 25: Deepening the roots of self-empathy
Video
7 minutes
05/05/2020
In this Life Hack, we're going deeper into self-empathy with a simple guided reflection that you can work through. This will be followed by a short exercise with a fill-in sheet led by Gesine and is something you can come back to as you wish.
Fear of Negative Consequences
Audio
8 minutes
03/04/2016
Miki responds to a participant’s question concerning fear of consequences when speaking with a manager at work. In this excerpt, she delves into the topic of choosing to inhabit nonviolence in the workplace, affirming that fear and nonviolence are incompatible, and that nonviolence is a powerful alternative to our habitual Fight, Flight, Freeze responses.