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Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

Article • 8-12 minutes • 11/2019
Intermediate Skill Level
Article
8-12 minutes
11/2019

Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.


Practice Tracking Various Living States of Being

Practice Exercise • 3 - 5 minutes • 12/30/2021
All Skill Levels
Practice Exercise
3 - 5 minutes
12/30/2021

Use this exercise to identify what state you're in at any moment, and as an exercise to grow capacity for self-awareness and self-compassion. Identify what happened, thoughts, sensations, feelings, longings, etc. Includes a table that outlines three states of being: Protective/Defensive, Vulnerability, Essence.


Houses of Healing: Kathleen Macferran at TEDx

Video • 15 minutes • 04/08/2014
Beginner Skill Level
Video
15 minutes
04/08/2014

Are we really safer when we put those who harm others behind bars and forget about them? Explore turning our prisons into houses of healing and creating connections that lead to greater safety for our communities.


Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

Article • 5 - 8 minutes • 09/2019
Beginner Skill Level
Article
5 - 8 minutes
09/2019

Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news cycle.


How to Interrupt

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Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Intermediate Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."


Relating to the Value of Things Rather Than the Cost

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/27/2005
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/27/2005

Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.


The Timing of Making A Request

Trainer Tip • 1 - 2 minutes • 09/29/2021
Beginner Skill Level
Trainer Tip
1 - 2 minutes
09/29/2021

It's important to make requests specific and doable. Also, without a swift request immediately after we state our observation, feeling, and need in regard to the situation, the other person is left guessing what we want. Instead, a swift request can bring clarity and lessen the potential for the listener to become defensive or argue.


Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

Trainer Tip • 3 - 5 minutes • Circa 2007
Advanced Skill Level
Trainer Tip
3 - 5 minutes
Circa 2007

Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or ..."


NVC Life Hacks 25: Deepening the roots of self-empathy

Video • 7 minutes • 05/05/2020
Beginner Skill Level
Video
7 minutes
05/05/2020

In this Life Hack, we're going deeper into self-empathy with a simple guided reflection that you can work through. This will be followed by a short exercise with a fill-in sheet led by Gesine and is something you can come back to as you wish.


Fear of Negative Consequences

Audio • 8 minutes • 03/04/2016
Intermediate Skill Level
Audio
8 minutes
03/04/2016

Miki responds to a participant’s question concerning fear of consequences when speaking with a manager at work. In this excerpt, she delves into the topic of choosing to inhabit nonviolence in the workplace, affirming that fear and nonviolence are incompatible, and that nonviolence is a powerful alternative to our habitual Fight, Flight, Freeze responses.


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